Help.....

Ky Kiske · 01-08-08, 11:48 AM

Ok, my girlfriend used to date a guy that cheated on her 4 times. She's just started going back to school with him YESTERDAY!!!

I decide to visit her, and she shows me a poem he wrote to her. I hate it. He's a little playin' creep that needs to get his face bashed in.

About an hour later when I'm at home, she calls me. I'm all happy, and then a few seconds later, she says "You think we can hold off a little?" I'm thinking, here we go.

She says she's confused, because she has feelings for the both of us. I for the first time don't know what to do.

Cloud07 · 01-08-08, 11:53 AM

Hmm, ur in a tight bubble here. How long have you been with her? Give us abit of background about her

Ky Kiske · 01-08-08, 11:56 AM

Well, she's basically the sweetes person I know. And she's always honest about her feelings. When she says she's confused about this, then I know she means it. I've known her for eight years now, and we've been dating for three. I gotta tell ya, if I lose her, I give up. I'm just gonna stay single.

Cloud07 · 01-08-08, 12:02 PM

Wow, three years of dating? Well... hmmm... because of the amount of time involved here, I personally would not pursue the relationship because of the heartbreak that can follow. If she's slightly confused, then you probably just need to have a serious chat with her. If she's really confused, then she could probably be the wrong person to be with future wise. We are all gonna end up married one day (already am) if you were married right now and she told you this... how would you feel? Hmm... it's just because of so much time involved. Really dude, you do not deserve to get the **** end of the stick. To me, it's just selfish and your feelings should come first because you are already invovled. That's just my input. But give it a little time before you resort to all sorts of conclusions, but don't wait to long, nor beat urself up because that will drive u mad.

Ur a good man for being concerned. Post any feedback you want think.

Ky Kiske · 01-08-08, 12:06 PM

I'm going to try to talk to her tonight. I can't lose her now, I've been alone inside for too long. She was my only cure. And without her, my void will become endless.

Cloud07 · 01-08-08, 12:11 PM

Hey from my mistake, remain calm with composure, tact, and confidence. Don't let sorrow or hurt cloud you. If you can do this with a high regard of confidence, you may be able to get her back. Just don't of weak or crying in the beginning. If do your best, you will never regret what you could of done tonight to make it better. Wish the best of luck to you. Let me know how it goes. If you always need support, reach any of us by messenger

Ky Kiske · 01-08-08, 12:48 PM

Thank you.
I simply can't give up on her.

JediSupersonic · 01-08-08, 07:22 PM

i'm sorry that your going though this.. but I cant give much advice because I suck at this kind of thing.....

just be honsest and keep your cool and dont let sadness consume you... it sucks Believe me from my experance and good luck! I hope everything works out

Ky Kiske · 01-09-08, 09:03 AM

I've got bad news.
She dumped me. Three years of love and compassion out the window. Eight years of friendship demolished.

This pain is just too real.

Cloud07 · 01-09-08, 09:12 AM

It can be a small plus. It's better to find this out now rather than being married... ya i know that sounds very lame, but true. Don't worry, what goes around comes back around. The happiness she thinks she'll find will come right back at her to kick her in the face.

_Nadie_ · 01-09-08, 10:11 AM

Hey, don't worry, she'll learn along in the future, her heart is going to break so much, she won't be able to pick the pieces us. What goes around comes around. I give it atleast 2 months, the guy is gonna hurt her and she's gonna come back running to you. If that happens, I suggest not to go back w/ her.

I just wish, you'd feel better. Because if you look in the longrun she's only hurting herself. She's gonna regret breaking up with you. The only thing you have to do is move on. You can't stick to past, as it's already happened.

Ky Kiske · 01-09-08, 10:45 AM

I know, but it helps to succumb to hurt emotions. I know he's going to hurt her again, he has four times already.

It just blows my mind to think that she will run to the one who shattered her heart, and leave behind the one who wanted only to mend it.

_Nadie_ · 01-09-08, 10:55 AM

Girls don't think as much as we should, we tend to take everything for granted until something bad has happened to us. I would know, I did the same thing as she did. After a year, my ex started talking to me. And we just became friends. Simple as that. It turns out he was happier with his new g/f than he ever was w/ me.

However on your side of the story, find a hobby maybe?
Things like these are hard to forget. Just give it time.

Ky Kiske · 01-09-08, 11:14 AM

If this keeps up, I'm gonna need meds.....lol, I'm kidding.
I still can't get the scent of her hair outta my head.....sorry, a little creepy. But I loved her, I even risked my life for her. It hasen't even been a day yet, and I'm spinning here.

God, get me through this.

_Nadie_ · 01-09-08, 12:17 PM

no your not.
Drugs aren't always the answer
Look, Life is tough, and yes, you'll get through it. Just give it time.