[KingdomKeyblader]

O.K, unless you already know, I gay. I have a VERY hard time to admit it to others, including my parents. So far, only one of my friends know and what people I am letting know here. I want to try and find a way to tell some of my friends and my parents, but I just don't know how. The only friend I told took me 6 months and it was still hard. Also, my parents aren't that too keen on gays/lesbians. I just don't know what to do, so I ask here.

[Nelly.]

your gay?

im bi. welcome to the club! lolol

yeah, w/e... ppl can usually figure it out within the first 5 minutes cuz there's always someone i'm checking out. lol

so, why are you afraid to speak up?

[TimeZone]

Well...i'm not gay or bi..so my answer..i think is not the greatest...but i have one..
Well..i think this a good test for your parent...and u too..
this will show your parents love...i'm pretty sure they will accecpt it..after they freak out..
or if they freak out..
just do what they do on they shows..
sit your parents down..when they are relaxed...and tell them..
and if they don't accecpt....then...thats what happens...
i have gay friends..and lesbien friends...i could care less..
becuase there my friends..and thats all they need to be....
hope that helps;D....

[KingdomKeyblader]

your gay?

im bi. welcome to the club! lolol

yeah, w/e... ppl can usually figure it out within the first 5 minutes cuz there's always someone i'm checking out. lol

so, why are you afraid to speak up?

Yea, I'm gay. "Noticed" at 13.

Well, ever since I was in 3rd grade, people have been calling me gay(before I really was) and I denied it and denied it until recentally when I thought to myself that I really was. (They didn't get me to tell myself that, it's what I believe) And like I said, my parents don't know and it took me 6 freak'in months to tell just one of my friends. Part of me wants to tell and get it over with, but the other half wants me to keep it to myself. IDK on what to do...

Well...i'm gay or bi..so my answer..i think is not the greatest...but i have one..
Well..i think this a good test for your parent...and u too..
this will show your parents love...i'm pretty sure they will accecpt it..after they freak out..
or if they freak out..
just do what they do on they shows..
sit your parents down..when they are relaxed...and tell them..
and if they don't accecpt....then...thats what happens...
i have gay friends..and lesbien friends...i could care less..
becuase there my friends..and thats all they need to be....
hope that helps;D....

Like I said, my parents aren't the type for listening, especially when it's "serious". They also aren't too keen on the whole gay thing. And honestly, they're normally never relaxed. ALWAYS STRESSED!

[TimeZone]

well..then u have two things u can chose from..
u can tell them...or u don't tell them...
go with your feeling..

[Nelly.]

I mean, it's not like your parents have to know, really.

just wait till your 18.... when you're out of the house. Tell them!

as for your friends, its understanding why you would be afraid to tell them.

when I came out... people would figure it out, or ask me, and sometimes if we were on the conversation of who likes who, i would tell them.

You know I never really cared about what my friends thought of me.
But I was definately scared to tell my best friend. Only because her thought is what counted the most to me.

I didnt know if she was okay with homosexuals or not. lol,
I came up to her, I wanted to tell her SO BAD! but i wasn't able to spit it out.
It took me about three months to do that.

Eventually, I never really told her, she just kind of figured it out.

im not gonna lie that was the most nerve wrcking moment of my life. but hey, the good part was the she was cool with it. there's a reason why i chose her to be my best friend after all.

anyways, as parents.... yeah they don't know, the hate gays... theyre all super religious... yadayada... i don't care.
so i don't bother telling them, after all- it's not like the have to know.

[KingdomKeyblader]

I think that would be the best choice. To try and tell some friends, but not to my parents. What they don't know won't hurt them, i guess, lol.

Thanx for the time.

[Evilynn]

oh yay~ indeed, welcome to the club~ :P

[KingdomKeyblader]

What shall we call this club??? lol

[Squall Leonhart]

I see now....

well... I'm not in the club AT ALL.... but ...... those 2 girls over there are the ones that can help you the most..

good luck man

[Larkis]

Haha... all I can say to you is that, well, keep yourself up. Don't even think of yourself as a fault... Stay what you are, whom your parents know you are and to your friends too. Ignore it you may but be careful, always. Think about yourself, what you really are, inside, know yourself and if you're decided that you really are a gay, what then? It's just the world which may can't accept, but you in yourself, be still. Your parents would pobably be surprised of the fact when you're going to tell them straight. You needed at least one good method to approach your parents, confess that to them before it's too late.

Regard yourself the same as yesterday, believe in yourself. Am not a gay either, but I know how you feel coz I have friends here, we're all five and there are two of the group confessed to us that they're gay, and we accepted them, and they're parents too accepted them, but it took them long time to confess to their parents, but it worked, now they're free.

Don't forget to pray, believe and everything will be okay! Alright, that's all I can advise you.

Take care!

[stabler]

Said this a lot about people above me in the posts but Larkis is right. Chances are your parents will love you no matter what, and will stay behind you in any choices you make.

[KingdomKeyblader]

Yea, I know. And I know that this isn't a fault, just a life choice. I just don't know who to set up when I am going to tell my parents. Like I said in the first post, it took me 6 months to tell just one of my dearest friends. My parents are really not those who would accept being gay, REALLY!!! Very close to what I call "Bible Belts", as in whatever the bible says you must agree to, no matter what. I know I'm gay, I've accepted that, but I just don't think my parents would approve in any form.

[incognitoinnominate]

How homosexuality is 'inherited'


[SIZE=2] Campaigners object to gay being labelled a lifestyle

Scientists say they have shown how male homosexuality could be passed from generation to generation.
Nature encourages mothers to pass on a "gay trait" to their male offspring by boosting their fertility, the Italian University of Padova team believes.
This would keep the pattern of gay inheritance alive, they told the Royal Society's Biological Sciences journal.
Critics of the theory argue a gay gene would eventually be wiped out because gay couples do not procreate.
Inheritance theory
There is controversy about whether sexual orientation is a matter of choice, the authors of the study admitted to the journal.
Campaigners say equality for homosexual people is the more important issue.
Back in 1993, US researchers suggested male homosexuality was passed from mother to son after they found strong patterns of inheritance in family trees.
There might be...reproductive advantages associated with male homosexuality.


The study authors

It has also been noted that homosexual males are more often the younger siblings of a number of older brothers.
Scientists have said it might be that the mother develops some kind of resistance to the male Y chromosome in her offspring that makes subsequent baby boys more likely to be born gay.
Scientists doing DNA studies on homosexual brothers pinpointed 'culprit' genetic material to a region of the X chromosome that mothers pass on to their offspring.

But other researchers in the US have not been able to replicate these findings.
Highly fertile

Andrea Camperio-Ciani and colleagues argue genetic factors favouring homosexual male offspring could make women more fertile.
"Our data resolve this paradox by showing that there might be, hitherto unsuspected, reproductive advantages associated with male homosexuality," they said.
They looked at 98 homosexual and 100 heterosexual men and their relatives, which included more than 4,600 people overall.
Is a "gay gene" passed from mother to son?

The female relatives on the mother's side of the homosexual men tended to have more offspring than the female relatives on the father's side.
This suggests that these women who, in theory, pass on the gay trait to their male offspring are also more fertile.

In comparison, the female relatives on both the mother's and the father's side of the heterosexual men did not appear to be as fertile, having fewer offspring.
The researchers believe the homosexuality-increased fertility trait must be passed down on the female X chromosome.
They pointed out that this would not explain the majority (80%) of cases, and that cultural factors might be important.
Bigger picture
"It is clear that our findings, if confirmed by further research, are only one piece in a much larger puzzle on the nature of human sexuality," they said.
In 2002, the Nuffield Council on Bioethics produced a report into the possible link between genes and behaviour, which included sexual orientation.
It concluded: "There are numerous problems with genetic and other biological research into sexual orientation which mean that any reported findings must be viewed with caution."
It said many of the genetic studies were too small to draw definite conclusions from.
Alan Wardle from the gay rights charity Stonewall said: "This is an interesting debate and there may well be a genetic element, but it's not conclusive. "It does not really matter whether it is nature or nurture. "The important thing is getting equality for homosexual people." [/SIZE]



so your folks may be wrong in their gay aversion. cos if it's genetic then you can't halp it and can't be condemmed
you could see if they think about it, by showing them the article. but find one more local to you. cos a forein one may be suspicious. get your country's and it just looks like you were browsing a news site, insead of having googled that subject.
Show them the article, or tell them breifly, but not over dinner. (thinking could take over a year.)
then decide to tell them or not. Evilynn's plan may make you lose contact with your parents. at least telling them now you can argue about it. but exterminate any pornographic materials, incase your searched. (this includes your pc history, and all that.)

[KingdomKeyblader]

O.K, just a minute.

Not trying to be mean, but personally, I KNOW it is a matter of choice. People AREN'T born gay, they choose at certain times in their life... Sorry, but that is just the truth... Thinks about those who(say they are a guy) start to like girls but gradually change to guys. Just because guys in while lab coats say that it is genetic doesn't mean it's true.

Sry, but it's just how I believe it to be and nothing will change that.

sry, if this sounded real mean, for I don;t mean to be mean.


As for Evilynn's ideas,

Evilynn's plan may make you lose contact with your parents. at least telling them now you can argue about it. but exterminate any pornographic materials, incase your searched. (this includes your pc history, and all that.)

What do you mean? She has only said

oh yay~ indeed, welcome to the club~ :P

, on this topic?

Finally, for right now, I'll be taking Nadie's Advise:

I mean, it's not like your parents have to know, really.

just wait till your 18.... when you're out of the house. Tell them!

as for your friends, its understanding why you would be afraid to tell them.

when I came out... people would figure it out, or ask me, and sometimes if we were on the conversation of who likes who, i would tell them.

You know I never really cared about what my friends thought of me.
But I was definately scared to tell my best friend. Only because her thought is what counted the most to me.

I didnt know if she was okay with homosexuals or not. lol,
I came up to her, I wanted to tell her SO BAD! but i wasn't able to spit it out.
It took me about three months to do that.

Eventually, I never really told her, she just kind of figured it out.

im not gonna lie that was the most nerve wrcking moment of my life. but hey, the good part was the she was cool with it. there's a reason why i chose her to be my best friend after all.

anyways, as parents.... yeah they don't know, the hate gays... theyre all super religious... yadayada... i don't care.
so i don't bother telling them, after all- it's not