[Squall Leonhart]

ok.... I want any suggestion please... I don't feel good right now... I came here because I know you're my family and you can help me.... anyone please... mainly Eric that he's a very wise person... but anybody please

ok..... My personality and my way of acting (almost everything)... changed since my parents got divorced..... and that has only giving problems... my mom and dad got separated because of Money issues..... not only for that... but thats the main reason.....
Right now I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired of this..... of being listening this story about "your dad/mom and I got separated because of.. bla bla bla....".... right now they HATE each other.... it is true... they don't even want to see each other in a picture... and that is obviously affecting me.....

I'm not like... come here to show off my problems.... I always try to fix EVERYTHING by myself... even stuff that is not mine........ I came because I've been feeling this hugh depression about this ****....... that I felt that I needed some help........ I never get in a depression... is just...... When is some big issue.....

ok... the thing is that my dad has to pay a sertain quantity of money (not gonna say how much)... to ME (according to my dad).... my mom always takes that money and she uses it to administrate all my stuff, spends, food, school, etc...... my dad also has to give the half of every single thing my mom buys me (of course she buy me things by herself.... but its rarely the times she does it)....it all has been good until an hour ago..... my dad got this letter from my mom lawler saying some things about an aumount of that payment.... it is $######... but the aumount was like a 75% more than that money that my dad is already paying...........

My dad says that she is always seeking for money... always money and money... selfish, egoist... and all for herself... I'm on a private school... and not with that amount my dad says that the lawler did a mistake (dunno what is it)... and everything has to be done withing that ##### paymernt... not 50% of the stuff additional that he used to give....... the 50% is already in that ###### and she has to administrate it...... there includes the shcool... which is around $100 a month.. a bit more

My mom says that he wants to put me against her....that he never wants to pay that money... he has an economical disorder... since... bla bla...... also she says that he gets into trouble because he has always being bad paying....and all that..... she send him that letter about the amount of the payment and now both are pissing each other off... (and so am I)...

I always say...."..whatever..." "do what you want... I don't care"... and stuff like that.... I never want to think about it....

Now in that sheet appears that if my dad doesnt pay the month money along with the amount... in her credit card.... he goes to jail...... He's gonna do it... but without the 50% thing... ohh I think that was the mistake.... and that will result in another "Sephiroth vs Ultimecia" fight ....

I don't know what to do.. the always wants to explain me... but I don't care... just when it gets to its extremes is that I do something... but.... damn.. this is so annoying....

please help

[xXBetwixtScarzXx]

I kinda know how you feel. (Im a love child) my mother and farther split up long ago. I wouldn't let it get to me that they're seperated. And however says:"it's not your fault." I have a single mother and about 2 yrs ago she had another baby. And we're doing just great on our own. We don't let my father bother us. He hasn't been paying the amount that he has to give us. But we don't really need it.

Now if the money he is paying is for you. And your mother is saying that he should be paying more i think you should let her know that he doesnt need to pay so much. It is your money after all. And if she asks you how you feel about it you should let her know right then and there. Don't just say "whatever" and "I don't care." Unless you want to have your father go to jail.

She may think that he's turning you against her but thats not it. Just let them both know that this situation involves you just as much as it involves them

[Squall Leonhart]

thanks... I'll take that in count

[Vicente]

I know that i am really new here and i shouldn't be doing this..
but i wanted to help because i went trough the same situation..the only difference was that the divorce kinda split me,my sister and brother.
And like xXBetwixtScarzXx said..you can help it by saying what you want to be done..just remember that they still love you ^^

And also don't let those lawyers get their finger at it...cause when my parents where mad at each other..a big part of the problem was because of these lawyers that see family's as a opportunity to make money..

just make your mom and dad chill..that things will get better you know..

i hope things get better for you ^^

[Kazaf]

my parents divorced when I was too young to remember, I'm not entirely sure why, and I really dont care about it. Every mother love her children, but I'm not sure about father. So...

Try not to disappoint your mother and dont worry just let everything go....

[_Nadie_]

I know what you're going through,
my parents divorced 7 yrs ago.
My mom left my dad cuz he was a jerk.
and since the divorce, my dad is required to pay child support for me until I'm 18.
But lately, my dad has been lagging off on paying the child support. My mother does have a lawyer to get on him to pay.
If he doesn't pay,
obviosly, he goes to jail.
But you know what?
I don't care.
I could care less about my real dad.

Now my real dad has been trying to go against my mom claiming that all she wants is money, which is so not true.

But you know,
I don't even listen to any of them.
I'm almost 17- already doing what I want (neither of my parents can't keep a leash on me). If I were you, I wouldn't listen to any of them. Just go off living your life. The money thing, it's their problem. Not for something for you to get involved with. Because if you do. It's just going to lead to more probs.

So just keep away,
that's what I do.
I don't listen to either of my parents.
But I have always gone for my mother's side.... as I said, I can care less about my real dad.

I don't know how much you care about your parents.
But after all it's up to you.

[Squall Leonhart]

I'm going through something similar to that....

well.... I do not liset to them... today I had a conversation with both (my dad was on the phone)

-after a short conversation.... most likely a small war...

Dad: ok... come here and I'll explain you some things....
Mom: why are you going there
Me: I just need to get my PS2.....
Dad: are you coming?
Me: ...yes
Mom: k I want to talk to you.....
Dad: k I want to explain you some things....
Me: I don't care anymore about this $·"@ͪ '¿.... you two are only making me suffer about this hole crap..... I don't care what you do... is your problem not mine you both hear!?
Mom: ............ *leaves to her room*
Dad:.... ok then cya later....

ok... Kazaf.... I love my dad as much as my mom... and I know its the same for me..... but they hate each other... they both think they're trying to put me against each other.... only about the ****ing money..... I hate this....

I agree with Nadie...... I've thought MANY times about going out and live by myself..... but I have no Idea of where and how am I gonna take all my stuff... I'm not leaving it behind....... I can survive with school and my job.... the food... I'll see.... but I'd come back as soon as the crap is over..... which I doubt....

[_Nadie_]

Well I'm not saying to run away.

By living your own life I mean:
1. I come home whenever I want.
2. I mind my own bussines and don't get into my parents.
3. So basically I'm still living in my mom's house, I just don't have almost any interraction with my parents- cuz well, I pretty much live a pretty idependent life. But I still live in my mom's house.

that's all.

By doing your own thing I meant is,
don't listen to your parents.

sure my mother gets pissed off cuz sometimes I don't come home until late or I don't even come home at all. But I know its a bad thing to do. It's just the way I am. I don't like ppl telling me what to do, so I just mind my own business.

Not a great thing to do,
but I still go to school though.

[Squall Leonhart]

I'd love to do that.... but...... where to go?..... and how to get it...

damn everything is so freacking confusing

[_Nadie_]

So, Squall.

It's been about 5 months now... how is your family doing?

[incognitoinnominate]

Originally Posted by _Nadie_

So, Squall.

It's been about 5 months now... how is your family doing?

...must of happened when i was out. Dammit.

[KingdomKeyblader]

My parents divorced around seven years ago. I'm still angry at my father for what he did, (not to mention here). But the way things seem, you should immediatally go to your mother in person, NOT OVER THE PHONE, and ask her and tell her that you don't need X amount of money. That the more you fight, the more it's hurting you, emotional and physical(stress on body). That you are trying to keep yourself from going crazy basically. Also, try to talk to your mom when your dad is no where near.(Which, no offence, sounds pretty easy). Get her to sit down and ACTUALLY listen to you, make sure her full attention is towards you.

P.S. Remember, this is NOT you fault so don't go emo on us

[Rowan]

I'd really like to help but i can't because my mother died so i don't know what it feels like and i might take my parents separating then my own mother dying( not of old age just so u know)
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